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Good morning, Team
With all of your effort, you need to avoid the “Somedays” and the “Mondays”.
Net-net, they bring so much more harm than good.
Do you ever get a twinge to do something on a Friday, or a Saturday?
Like start a diet; go for your first run in a while; send that email; have that conversation you know you need to have.
And your brain immediately presents the most rationale thought, “I’ll start on Monday”
Seduced by the start of a new week.
The new week acts as a symbol for a new me.
The thing that is clear to me now, is that this is not the beginning of something, it’s literally just delaying the thing.
But, it makes you feel good about yourself today.
You can give yourself a pat on the back for mustering up enough motivation and drive to say you’ll do something.
1-0 to your monkey mind.
Well done - for finding a way of congratulating the delaying of something that you know you need to do today.
The “somedays” are even more damaging.
Someday I’ll get in shape.
Someday I’ll start that new business.
Someday I’ll leave this sub-par relationship.
Someday I’ll start spending more time with my children.
The "somedays" delay the critical task until an undefined date in time.
What is this?
Why do we take pride in delaying something just because we’ve processed the thought of doing it in the first place.
Actions speak louder than words.
(Important side note - words are still very important)
Don’t find pride in the prospect of someday doing something.
Either start now, or scrub the thought completely.
There is an exception though - deliberately delaying something.
This is fine. If you recognise life has seasons.
Personal example: “someday I will start playing golf”
This is a genuine example of mine. I have a very busy life, by design, and I also have a growing family.
I would like to play golf later in life, but I have no interest in doing that today or tomorrow.
That’s rationale, intentional.
Stop rewarding yourself for not doing the thing today, just because you’ve said you’ll do it tomorrow.
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